How Lisa & Tom Transformed Their Marriage in 2 Weeks
Often the best way to learn is from the experiences of others, especially when it comes to relationship and marriage problems. Lisa and Tom (names changed) have given me permission to share their experience of the save my marriage program. It is always interesting and inspiring listening to others success…
“How Lisa and Tom Rekindled Their Love And Passion In Less Than 2 Weeks After 5 Years of Poor Communication in their 16 Year Marriage ”
Feeling lonely, living separate lives under the same roof and only talking to each other when they had to, Lisa and Tom were not enjoying married life. Lisa and Tom made a simple commitment when they started the program and that was to make each other’s happiness a priority. After learning about what they needed to feel love, attraction, passion and interest in each other again, they were able to make changes in less than 2 weeks.
Lisa and Tom were struggling to get along, they barely talked let alone did anything together, all their communication was centered around their children or bills that needed to be paid. They had become strangers, living separate lives under the same roof, no intimacy, affection or even interest in each other was displayed.
Lisa was frustrated, disappointed and angry with Tom for how obsessed with work and making money he had become. He worked late and when he was home he was on his tablet all night and or so stressed she didn’t dare go near him. Lisa was only staying because she didn’t want the children to grow up without a father, yet with his distance, lack of interest in the family and tension he brought home, she was beginning to wonder if she and the children would be in fact, be better off without him. She couldn’t understand how he could be so self-centered and felt he was not the man she married.
Tom was reluctant at first to join the save my marriage program at first, he thought it would be a waste of money and time and that they could figure it out on their own. Why should we pay someone else to make us happy he thought. But acknowledging how unhappy they both were, he agreed to let Lisa begin on her own if that’s what she wanted to do, ANYTHING to improve the current situation couldn’t hurt he thought.
How I Helped
Lisa began the “Save My Marriage Program” and learned how she and Tom could fall back in love and stay in love by focusing on each other’s most important 5 needs. Once we had uncovered what each of theirs was, Lisa began focusing on Tom more, giving him what he really appreciated. It worked so well she noticed that Tom’s behavior changed towards her in just a few days. He was so impressed with Lisa’s efforts and new way of thinking , he agreed to join her in the save my marriage program to enhance the relationship further.
Tom was able to see Lisa’s perspective and Lisa for the first time understood that a lot of Tom’s stress at work was due to the fact he didn’t want her or the children to not have the summer and things they wanted. His strive for promotion and bonus was the way he was showing his love. Before Lisa thought his absence was his selfish lack of interest, not an act of love which she now realized it was. The fallout occurred because they both valued different things and their expectations were not aligned. Unmet expectations are the single biggest reason for divorce, so sharing and working to meet each other’s expectations can have a huge impact on most marriages.
Through loving acts focusing on giving each other what they needed most. As well as removing actions that were destroying love, within 2 weeks they were laughing, talking and touching again. They felt like a team rather than two individuals under one roof. Their passion for each other grew and their intimacy became more frequent. Instead of coming home and dreading what mood each other might be in, they looked forward to seeing each other. Their evenings at home became stress relieving rather than a stress trigger.
Lisa “If I knew how effective the program would be, I wouldn’t have waited 5 whole years suffering, just hoping that my husband would change. I was hesitant because I didn’t know if you could really save your marriage on your own and yet I was determined to try. It worked a week later he joined me any way. I’m so pleased I took action and signed up, as goodness knows how many more years we would have wasted being miserable around each other.”
Tom “After seeing the changes in Lisa, I became curious and thought I’d at least have a session with Nicola. I liked her no-nonsense approach and the fact that we didn’t have to drag up the past. It was clear the program was forward-focused, looking at the future which I agree with and so it suited me”
Hope you liked reading their story, it can help to relate and learn from others relationship problems.
From my heart to yours, Nicola
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