Let’s just start with the most obvious question…

 

“Nicola, I’m not sure… whether the Save My Marriage Program is right for me /us?”

 

In order to help you figure this out, I have shared some details below to answer the frequently most asked questions.But I am going to give you some tough love, because I’m committed to your happiness and you having what you deserve – and are worthy of in your life. If you’re struggling in your marriage and it’s become an area of frustration or disappointment you have to take committed action. Starting now.

I meet a ton of men and women who desire a more loving relationship, with less stress and tension,  but are too busy/tired/ambivalent/  to making it happen. They’re waiting for time to make things better. Maybe you’re tied up with work, your children or starting a business. Or perhaps you make up and hope the same patterns won’t come up again, only they do….over and over. Either way, it’s a safe place to be, but it’s not only to bring you what you truly deserve.

 

Here are the FAQ’S for the Save My Marriage Program Online and Private 1 to 1 Sessions

 

Is the Save My Marriage Program For Me?

This program is perfect for you if you are experiencing any of the following:

  • You no longer have sex or are affectionate 
  • You no longer communicate apart from discussing logistics
  • You feel lonely when you are together or empty inside
  • Your marriage is at high risk of an emotional, virtual or physical affair
  • You find yourself overacting to things that previously wouldn’t have got to you
  • You think about leaving and wonder if you married the wrong person
  • You can’t remember the last time you felt close, laughed or had fun together

 

 

SAVE MY MARRIAGE PROGRAM ONLINE

 

QUESTION: "Does the Save The Marriage Program Work for 1 Person?"

Yes you can, over 50% of those that join the Save My Marriage online or 1 to 1 program start on their own. I know that you would much rather your partner join you, but if they are refusing, checked out, having an affair or threatening divorce, you still can turn things around. You make up 50% of the marriage and with the right intent, strategies and focus you can make 80 to 90% of the difference.

QUESTION: "What does private office hours mean?"

Private office hours, means you get dedicated support to answer your most pressing questions each week. For 2 hours every Sunday at 8am-9am GST and 10.30pm GST, I will be available to answer your most pressing questions. To ensure you get the results to keep moving forward. All you need to do is submit your questions to me by Friday and I will either answer you on email, by creating a podcast or video if a common question or through a private 1 to 1 call.

QUESTION: “What if I am not available for the weekly private office hours?”

ANSWER: The private office hours run every Sunday at 8am-9am GST and 10.30pm GST  giving you the opportunity to get your questions asked. If you are not available during those times, no problem I will record a video or podcast to answer your question, that you can listen to, time and time again whenever you like.

QUESTION: "What if I miss a week?"

ANSWER: If you miss a week and are away or have visitors, it's not a problem. You can listen the an unabridged audio recording any time you like. You have a life time access to the audio files and supporting work books, all of these recordings and bonuses are included with your registration. To access go to the members-only web site and click and listen from your computer, or download the audio file to your iPod or phone and listen whilst driving, exercising or doing household chores.

QUESTION: "What if I can't make the private office hours on Saturday?"

ANSWER: Also not a problem. If you have a question, simply email it to me in advance by the Friday of every week and I'll answer it in a video, email or podcast. You can then listen to this any time you like from your computer.

QUESTION: “The 10 week online program is too long. What if I need help now?”

ANSWER: The 10 week online program is only part of the program. All the other components of the program (the workbook, bonus audio recordings and materials, private session with me and private office hours, etc.) are available to you immediately. You'll have more than enough marriage help resources NOW. Meaning that you can get right to work changing your situation and the weekly audios will support you to keep on track through any difficult spots. The weekly private office hours will also ensure that you continue to apply everything you learn. One of the biggest fears I hear people share is that they are worried results will last a few days or weeks. With 10 weeks of fresh material you will be able to keep strengthening the marriage. Plus you also get 4 audios in the bonus package available immediately.

QUESTION: "What if my marriage hits a major crisis point during the program."

ANSWER: You have three options

  1. Continue the program and use the private 1 to 1 session and office hours to support you to turn it around or use the program to teach you more in-depth about making relationships work.
  2. Upgrade to the 1 to 1 Save My Marriage Program - for extra support.
  3. Book the VIP Couples Retreat Weekend or Home Visit Package for Immediate Assistance.
QUESTION: "How soon can I begin the program?"

ANSWER: Straight away as soon as your investment has been confirmed, you can begin immediately to download the bonus audios as well as gain access to week 1 audio and workbooks.

QUESTION: "Why is the program spread over 10 weeks?"

ANSWER: The work that I do transforms marriages permanently, often there is no overnight fix, it takes the right strategies, implemented over a period of weeks to really get back the love, trust and respect successfully. With each week there will be a recorded audio between 25 to 60 minutes to listen to. many listen to the audios 3 or 4 times to really make sure they have got the most out of it. Then there are exercises to complete with each course.

 

1 TO 1 PRIVATE SUPPORT

PROGRAMS Ultimate Marriage Connecter, Relationship Strengthener and Monthly Booster Packages

 

QUESTION: "How are the one to one calls conducted?"

ANSWER: "I usually use Skype or Zoom to connect online, both work well and you can select whichever one suits you best. If you are technology challenged like me, our team can guide and support you with this. If you live in Dubai or Abu Dhabi we can discuss the options available.

QUESTION: "What if I need support in between the scheduled calls?"

ANSWER: Not a problem, all of the 1 to 1 support packages include unlimited email access to me, and quick emergency calls. So you don't have to wait until your next scheduled time to get the support you need, you can ask me about anything anytime.

QUESTION: "Can I spread the payment across several months, rather than one upfront payment?"

ANSWER: Yes absolutely, we have different payment methods and options available that can be tailored to suit your circumstances.

QUESTION: "Can I pause / freeze the package if I am travelling or something urgent comes up"

ANSWER: Yes we offer the option for you to freeze the package for one month, provided you contact us via email at least 48 hours before the next scheduled appointment.

QUESTION: "What if I am not satisfied with the program, content or results"

ANSWER: No problem, I offer a 100% money back guarantee, if for any reason you are not satisfied with the support or results, and have made an honest effort to implement all the strategies, I will refund your money 100% in full, no questions asked.

I hope I’ve answered your most pressing questions and you are ready to take action. If you are still not sure why not at the very LEAST get the Save My Marriage Audio Set. It includes 4 audios and a worksheet for couples to get started saving your marriage and it’s less than $70, with a money-back guarantee. I cannot be fairer than that. Click on the below to read more about the Save My Marriage Audio Set 

If you still have questions you let’s discuss them together in a FREE Save My Marriage Consultation 

Where we will focus on:

1, Ways you can increase happiness, love and passion in 30 days or less!

2, Steps to overcome your biggest challenges, so you can become closer and totally avoid divorce.

3, A success strategy that you can apply immediately to reconnect and enjoy each other’s company again. 

 

Click on the below to book your FREE Save My Marriage Consultation

 

11 Questions To Ask Before Hiring a Marriage Counselor Or Relationship Coach

The decision to save and work on your marriage is one of the most important decisions you will ever make, so it is crucial to check that the person you select also cares about you and your marriage.

 

I appreciate that it can be daunting to know what to look for when choosing a marriage counselor or relationship coach. You need to be able to trust and feel comfortable with the person and their approach in order to open up and for the support to be effective. Plus, tthe last thing you need is more confusion or doubt.  I created these from feedback of what couples hated and loved about their marriage counseling experience in the US, UK and Dubai. and further afield.   I hope these support you to select the right match for you, in your quest for a better life and relationship.

 

Is the marriage counsellor interested only in past events and problems, or do they focus on a process to bring you close again and more aligned?

When I work with individuals or couples to save their marriage I focus on the future. Together we create a plan to move forward based on actions they agree to take, that will bring back  their love and happiness. I find that talking about problems often does not help a couple, in fact it can make them become less hopeful and more convinced that their differences are too great for the marriage to be saved. Rather than drag up past grievances and issues in a joint session, I work with both each partner separately to let go of resentment, past hurt and pessimism. You cannot talk someone into your way of thinking and you certainly cannot make someone change by repeating everything they have done that has hurt you. It's only by changing our behaviour and taking action towards reconciling can we strengthen a relationship.

Does the marriage counselor/ relationship coach offer a money back guarantee for their work, if you are not satisfied?

If you decide to work with me, I offer a 100% money back guarantee where if you are not entirely satisfied for any reason after the first 2 sessions you can cancel the program and have your money refunded in full, no questions asked.

 
For the Online Save My Marriage Program if you have made an honest effort to implement all of the steps and complete the work books and for any reason are not getting the desired results I will refund your money back to you, again no questions asked.

Does the marriage counselor / relationship coach offer a combination of one to one and couple work or only one of these?

When working with my clients I use both. I have found from helping hundreds of couples to save their marriage that it is essential to work both on a one to one basis and as a couple. Why? because you need to have the chance to offload separately, so you can clear any past resentments, doubts and negative thinking in your way of closeness. Many hope that past resentment or hurt will just fade, but without action it doesn't. To bring up the conflicts that happened years ago in front of each other, for obvious reasons will do more damage than good and trying to bury it under the carpet doesn't work either. So a combination of both is what helps a couple to really become lovers and friends again.

Does the marriage counselor / relationship coach have a structured plan to help you move forward rather than just offer to work with you on an ad hoc session by session basis?

Experience working with hundreds of couples to save their marriage has taught me that an adhoc session by session approach to marriage counseling is the less effective.  For lasting results couples benefit from a plan that they can commit to saving their marriage, as system that focuses on bringing them closer together. If you take one session here and then another session there, it's unlikely to get results, saving a marriage, like finding a new job or home requires focus and action.

 

I have several packages that increase closeness, save a marriage, stop divorce or to help couples recover from affairs, abuse or addictions. Even for couples who are unsure about whether they want to or can save the marriage having a program helps them focus.  Just attending now and then many couples found out the hard way that it wasted their time, money and left them feeling more hopeless.

Can the marriage counselor / relationship coach provide you with testimonials, case studies and details about how they work, so you can make an informed choice?

I believe the best decisions we ever make are those that feel right intuitively. You know, when you get that feeling inside "I think that person can help me or us" or "I don't think that person is right." It's usually after some interaction to be able to get that clarity.  

 

The next best thing if you cannot speak to the marriage therapist or counselor first is to find out how they works, what other people have experienced and gained from working with them.

 

Choosing to work on your marriage is one of the most important (if not the most important) decisions you will ever make. You want to ensure that you don't leave the selection of your marriage support program or counsellor to chance. You will want to check that they have got results for other individuals and couples and that their method of working is successful. They will understand if you ask for testimonials or case studies to feel more comfortable before you go ahead. .

Are they an expert in their field or more of a generalist counselor, coach?

With something as important as your family, you want to make sure your relationship is in the hands of an expert. If you go for generalist counselors, life coaches and therapists check they have a track record in family relationships, marriage and divorce. Don't leave your marriage to chance, make sure you ask them who they have worked with and how they help families, they will understand your concern and wanting to check as our families are one of the most important things we have.

Does the marriage counselor / relationship coach provide access to them outside of appointments, for emergency calls, email updates or text messages to help you through any challenges? Or are they only available to help in the pre-scheduled and paid sessions.

When I work with clients I offer unlimited email and what's app support, I am also available for emergency calls and crisis situations. Why do I do that? because life doesn't happen in 1 hour windows every 2-3  weeks, so neither does the support I offer. I want my clients to get results. I want them to feel better, become closer and have help through any rough patches.

 

Many find they forget to ask important questions during sessions or that they feel great the day of the session but something happens after where they need support straight away, not in a  few weeks time. So I strongly recommend you check with whoever you are considering to be your coach or therapist and ask if they are approachable outside of the sessions. Would they be willing to reply to your emails, questions or messages or take a 10 minute emergency call?

Is the marriage counselor / relationship coach or health center willing to support your individual circumstances by offering a range of payment methods, payment plans and out of office appointments?

If flexibility is important for you, your work and family situation check whether or not they can accommodate your needs. Having worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to save their marriage or get through a divorce, I recognise during this highly stressful time, what people need most is flexibility. Whether that's flexibility in terms of late night, early morning or weekend appointments, emergency calls or payment plans that help spread the cost over weeks, months or years, I do my best to accommodate my clients. Find out if they operate different payment plans, methods or offer out of office hours if this is important to you.

Has the marriage therapist or relationship counsellor worked in an international setting for a number of years, have they worked with different religious, cultural, socio-economic backgrounds?

It's important to find a counsellor or coach that you feel comfortable with, who understands the cultural norms in your society when it comes to marriage, family and divorce. Having lived in the Middle East for 10 years and having travelled extensively throughout the GCC, Asia, Europe and the USA the past 18 years, I make a point of learning about societal expectations and traditions. I do this so I can best help couples facing cultural clashes either between themselves or when it comes to extended family. Be sure to check that whoever you work with to save your marriage that they appreciate your religious, cultural and socio-economic background.

Is the marriage therapist willing to provide a recording of your sessions (upon request) and offer further audio resources, work books and guidance to help you focus?

Many find that they feel great in a session and shortly afterwards, but with all they have going on forget what was said or what they agreed they would do to move forward. To avoid this I offer my clients the option of making an audio recording the session, where upon request I record my client's sessions and send them a link to download the audios.

 

I also offer other learning via audios, articles and work books that I have designed to get results for my clients, as fast as possible. Ask your marriage therapist if they have extra material you can learn and read to enhance your results, or if they are willing to record the sessions so that you can at least to them listen again.

Has the marriage advisor or relationship counselor you are considering been featured in news or other media outlets of how they have helped others overcome relationship problems?

Do your research and check to see if others are finding their approach to solving relationship problems useful. If you would like to check out my articles or books you can find them on my Amazon author page or check out my weekly contributions to the Huffington Post and Your Tango.

 

If you would like to explore whether I might be a good fit for you and your spouse, feel free to book a Free Save My Marriage Consultation with me. Either together or separately, during which we will focus on:

 

1, Ways you can increase happiness, love and passion

 2, Actions to overcome your biggest challenges

3, Steps you can apply immediately to reconnect and enjoy each other’s company again. 

 

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